The tables are turned in the penultimate episode of The Bachelor SA
Lee’s loved ones grill Gina and Jozaan in the penultimate episode of The Bachelor SA
Will their impressions of the ladies influence his final decision?
South Africa’s first Bachelor, Lee Thompson, is about to make the most difficult decision of his life. The final two ladies in M-Net’s smash television hit The Bachelor SA – Gina Meyers and Jozaan Dique – have both admitted during one-on-one dates with him that they had “fallen” for him, but only one can receive the Final Rose. Will he choose to go on his knees and propose to elegant make-up artist Gina? Or will he slip the gorgeous Jack Friedman engagement ring on the finger of quirky, down-to-earth lawyer Jozaan?
To get to know them a little better, Lee joined them for a home visit in a previous episode, during which the ladies’ family members grilled Lee to see if he is good husband material. Now, in The Bachelor SA’s penultimate episode on Thursday 2 May, the tables are turned when two of the most important people in his life – Uncle Ian and Aunty Anne Curry – join Lee and his ladies in at the LUX* Grand Gaube Hotel in Mauritius. This important meeting could potentially make or break the ladies’ future with their beloved Lee. They will have to answer some difficult questions but can also use this opportunity to find out what Lee was like growing up and in day-to-day life.
Before Lee makes his decision, he also has a chance to take both ladies on a final full-day adventurous date. Expect some deep conversations and plenty of kissing!
So, what will Lee’s loved ones think of his final two ladies? And with them knowing what he wants and what he is looking for, will they be able to assist him in making his final decision? Tune in to find out!
The Bachelor SA is screened on M-Net Channel 101 every Thursday evening at 19:00 and is also available on Catch-Up. Fans can visit www.mnet.tv/thebachelorsa and follow all the breaking news and conversations around the show on Twitter @MNet / #TheBachelorSA and on the official M-Net Facebook page.
The Bachelor SA is produced by Rapid Blue and proudly sponsored by dotsure.co.za , a product of Oakhurst Insurance Company Limited (FSP 39925) and Oakhurst Life (FSP 44793), authorised financial services providers.
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THE BACHELOR SA REACHES THE FINAL ROSE CEREMONY
It’s so hard to believe that we’re 9 weeks into the journey with The Bachelor SA and that there are just 4 ladies left! This past week the tension was evident at that final, awkward cocktail party. Lee had shared a fun day out with everyone on a group date at Gold Reef City but early on in the day, people were already feeling the pressure, and feeling excluded. One on one time followed, first with Gina and then with Michelle R, who arrived back at the mansion with a rose!!
And talking about ‘excluded’ … let’s get to the social media reaction surrounding Lee inviting Jozaan AND Nontombi for a chat, and then proceeding to chat exclusively to Jozaan! Talk about causing a Twitter storm!!
You could have cut the tension with a knife. When that final rose ceremony began it felt like everyone was holding their breath. Lee himself needed a moment to compose himself before presenting that very last rose, and when he did, it was Jenna and Nontombi who were empty-handed. I chatted to the two of them last Friday.
I didn’t want to beat about the bush, so the very first thing I mentioned when I spoke to Nontombi, was to ask her how she’d felt about the whole incident and the audience reaction, general consensus being that she had been disrespected and that she should have walked out of that mansion immediately and not even have waited for the rose ceremony! Well, she didn’t do that, and in true Nontombi style, when she didn’t receive a rose, she said goodbye – when it was time – and walked out with her head held high, like the lady she is, and has been throughout the show!
Nontombi says that while she doesn’t really know what Lee was thinking by wanting to chat to her and Jozaan together, she thought that maybe he felt that as the two girls were so close, maybe they’d feel more comfortable – the atmosphere in the mansion was incredibly tense by then. Regarding audience reaction, she’s extremely relaxed about it, saying that people respond from their own personal perspectives – they see what they want to see – and this is a theme that prevails throughout my conversation with both her and Jenna: the fact that the audience doesn’t really get the entire picture, only parts of it, and that’s what they’re basing their opinions on.
Jenna tells me that from the minute she stepped out of the limo, the impression she got of Lee was that he made every one of the ladies feel like she was in a safe space. But walking into the mansion, she never expected that she was walking into a situation where she’d be meeting people who just a few weeks later she’d be absolutely heartbroken to leave! 
She’d entered The Bachelor SA because having always been so focused on her career, she’d never made time for relationships. But she admits to being old-fashioned and quite early on had realised that maybe he wasn’t the right guy for her. However, being a determined and resolute soul, Jenna continued to reason with things and gave it a full chance. She’s most proud of the fact that she remained 100% true to her character and I’m sure everyone will agree that from start to finish she never diverted from being truly authentic.
Jenna acknowledged that on that last group date she knew that the whole situation just wasn’t right for her. She was emotional and teary and was feeling that enough was enough. In fact she says the entire series has been an emotional journey … however it’s taught her so much about herself and it’s been more positive than negative. She knows that Lee would have liked to see the fight in her, but it’s just not who she is, and as we’ve already said, she stayed true to herself. She also correctly points out that the right guy will love you for who you are and that we’re all different – that’s what makes us unique!
When it came to strategy, Nontombi laughingly (and repeatedly) tells me that maybe she should have watched at least one episode (or maybe a season) of one of the overseas versions of The Bachelor before going on the show! That’s right people, she’d never watched a single one. She didn’t know about home visits, didn’t know about the proposal at the end, which she philosophically says would mean that it would make sense that he’d need to meet your family and friends beforehand right?!
With regards to why she entered, she says it’s not entirely about the end goal: the man. One needs to bear in mind – and keep in mind – that the bachelor is not a prize, he’s a person! Being a part of the show doesn’t mean that Lee gets to sit back and have 24 women fight over him, which is often the perception, he’s also part of the process. Jenna describes how difficult it is for him to allocate time for each of the ladies at the cocktail parties, which leads to strain and friction amongst everyone – for example, he might have had a one on one date with one of them, but then inadvertently wouldn’t immediately greet her at the next cocktail party, greeting someone else first. This would lead to huge disappointment and anxiety.
Nontombi resolutely reminds us that what you see on TV might be reality TV but “it’s not real! It’s like commenting on social media … so easy, but if you wouldn’t say it in real life, don’t say it online!” While you’re on the show, if you wouldn’t do something in real life, don’t do it here either!
And is there anything they would have changed, or done differently? Well, Nontombi would have watched the show previously!! But then she thinks about it and says that she thinks that this may have changed her authenticity, so she’s actually happy she didn’t. Jenna too, says she wouldn’t change anything and adds (reflectively) that when you look back on aspects of your life you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself and you should be kind to the you that you were in whatever situation you were in.
Does being on The Bachelor SA change peoples’ perceptions of you … do your family and friends see you in a different light? Jenna tells me that her family and friends were immensely supportive and that that the feedback that’s made her the happiest is that they’ve told her how happy they were to see she came across exactly as she truly is!
Nontombi describes the experience as both overwhelming and refreshing. Due to her mom having a pre-existing health condition, she wasn’t able to tell her that she’d be on the show, which was difficult as she would have loved to be able to share the news with her. However, her other family members and friends were supportive.
We’re wrapping things up, and inevitably we get to discussing the bonds that have been formed with the other ladies in the mansion. It tell them that it’s funny that in all of my previous chats with the other participants, we talk more about this than we actually talk about Lee! He doesn’t seem to come up in conversation much! The truth is, they remind me, that everyone spends very little time with Lee, but a lot of time together, so it’s understandable that such strong friendships are created. Take that, together with the fact that you have no connection to your usual support networks, you’re bound to form strong ties in a short space of time.
It’s Jenna who tells me that it was certainly not her intention to go in and create friendships – in fact, if she had a strategy, she’d say that was it! The biggest and most unexpected shock for her was to absolutely love these girls and to make such close friends, and then have to leave them! “I never prepared my heart for that!”
And Nontombi pipes up: “Babe! They’re not dying!”
Banter like this only exists where true warmth and friendship live! I guess some things on reality TV are real after all!
The Bachelor SA is screened on M-Net Channel 101 every Thursday evening at 19:00 and is also available on Catch-Up. Fans can visit www.mnet.tv/thebachelorsa and follow all the breaking news and conversations around the show on Twitter @MNet #TheBachelorSA and on the official M-Net Facebook page.
The Bachelor SA is produced by Rapid Blue and proudly sponsored by dotsure.co.za, a product of Oakhurst Insurance Company Limited (FSP 39925) and Oakhurst Life (FSP 44793), authorised financial services providers.
IT’S GETTING HARDER TO SAY GOODBYE
We’re 7 weeks in, and as Lee starts to form stronger relationships with each of the ladies, it’s bound to get more difficult to let each one go!
Each week sees fewer roses waiting to be distributed at the rose ceremony and this week it was Michelle D and Edith who didn’t receive roses and who had to bid farewell to the Bachelor mansion.
I chatted to both of them about their Bachelor SA experience, and I have to say, that their bubbly warmth was absolutely delightful. I could have talked to them for hours!
Who can forget Michelle stepping out of that limo and presenting Lee with … of all things … a cake?! She tells me how nerve-racking that was and how focussed she was on the red carpet, while silently repeating to herself “Don’t drop the cake!” Of course it was Lee himself who dropped it as soon as Michelle entered the mansion. She says she actually heard it, but thought “At least it wasn’t me that dropped it!” After rehearsing in her mind what she’d say to Lee when she first met him, she hadn’t actually reckoned on his response!! So when he did reply to her greeting she was a bit stunned and didn’t know what to say to him!
Similarly, Edith (who was one of the first ladies to meet Lee) says she also kept rehearsing in her head what she’d say to Lee when she met him for the first time. She remembers trying to just focus on how to walk and then suddenly he’s there in front of you! She says you’re so determined to look good and say all the right things, but when then when you meet him, you realise he’s just as nervous as you are!
Talking about all that pressure, with the spotlight being on you, and all those nerves, I asked if the girls, and even Lee himself, had any kind of preparation for this type of attention before participating in the show. They assured me that they did receive as much help as possible beforehand, and throughout. It’s not something you can enter into lightly, and you need to know (as much as is possible) what to expect and that there’s support available to get you through it, especially as you’re cut off from your usual support networks like your family and friends.
When it came to strategy Edith says that she wanted to have one but reminded herself that she’d function optimally if she was authentically herself.
For Michelle, her strategy was to be truthful to who she is. She went in telling herself not to hate, criticise or judge and this is what she pursued throughout. She endeavoured to get along with everyone and to always be respectful. As she explains it: “After all, we’re all dating the same guy!” She wouldn’t have done anything differently and says that she learnt a lot about herself along the way. She’s very clear about the fact that everyone has their own journey on the show, and most importantly, she made amazing friends.
Edith too has no regrets and wouldn’t change the way she did anything. She pauses though and then says that maybe she could have let go a little more.
Michelle did find it frustrating that she never got to go on a one-on-one date with Lee, but feels that they did reach a good understanding. This was definitely evident in her farewell to him, and one got the impression that the basis of a solid friendship was formed here.
And why did they even enter a show like this?
Edith explains that it wasn’t simply about Lee. “We’re also looking for someone out there,” she says. “This is just a different platform on which to do that.” She goes on to say that how you look isn’t a factor. You need to ask yourself what your ultimate goal is, and unless you put yourself out there and go for it, how do you know it’s not for you? “I could have done myself a great injustice if I hadn’t tried this. It’s a huge lesson, not to be so hard on yourself.”
Michelle’s response was completely different! To quote her directly: “I entered for shits and giggles!” She claims that she was constantly being asked the question ‘Why aren’t you married?’ At the time she entered she was 33, feeling overworked and wrung out by the continual hounding from everyone about her single status. One night, working late, the Bachelor SA ad popped up on her computer screen and she decided to fill in the entry form. She then screen-grabbed her entry and sent it to everyone – all her naysayers – telling them she’d taken matters into her own hands. And then she forgot about it … until she started getting through each round, and finally made it onto the actual show! She’d actually tried to enter the US Bachelor back in 2011 but was denied entry as she wasn’t a US citizen.
And what about life after The Bachelor SA? I wondered how Michelle and Edith’s perceptions may have changed about life, the universe and everything else?
According to Edith, the show definitely changes how you see yourself. She says that you’re made to feel so special, and you’re reminded that love really does exist. But she also says that you learn what people think of you and how you come across to others – she makes a passing reference to her ‘resting bitch face’!
She goes on the talk about how the show proves that we all deserve that someone who will go to extreme lengths to impress you, but at the same time it lends you a sense of empowerment in making someone want to do that for you. And most importantly, you learn to laugh at yourself.
Michelle describes the intense experience that the show is, and being that it is such a full-on experience, it absolutely has to change you on some level, which is a positive thing.
And once again the warmth and camaraderie that was created between all the ladies in the mansion was something that was spoken about with enormous enthusiasm. The time that they spent together and the bonds that were formed have been life-changing and immensely rewarding for all of them.
The Bachelor SA is screened on M-Net Channel 101 every Thursday evening at 19:00 and is also available on Catch-Up. Fans can visit www.mnet.tv/thebachelorsaand follow all the breaking news and conversations around the show on Twitter @MNet #TheBachelorSA and on the official M-Net Facebook page.
The Bachelor SA is produced by Rapid Blue and proudly sponsored by dotsure.co.za, a product of Oakhurst Insurance Company Limited (FSP 39925) and Oakhurst Life (FSP 44793), authorised financial services providers.
LUCY, DANEAL AND MILISHA ARE THE FIRST TO LEAVE THE BACHELOR SA
So, we’ve only seen 2 episodes of #TheBachelorSA, and already the claws have come out, Tenjiwa was very open about her accusations towards Michelle Reddy and how she felt about her so-called ‘Belle’ performance and lack of authenticity. We saw Michelle take flight – literally out onto the mean streets of Sandton (although to be honest, it was probably much safer out there than inside!)
Lucy Thompson made an unforgettable entrance onto The Bachelor with twin sister Sandy, complete with matching gold dresses, to Lee’s utter surprise. Reactions of shock and disbelief met the girls as they entered the House together for the first time. But unfortunately Sandy dropped at the first hurdle, and although Lucy said that she was sad when this happened, realising they wouldn’t be furthering the journey together, she acknowledged the fact that they are extremely different – something they knew going in. They don’t have similar taste in men and have never fought over a guy before.
Lucy had watched so many seasons of the overseas versions so she jumped at the chance to enter the SA edition.
Daneal and Milisha both had similar reasons for entering. After exploring so many of the traditional avenues of the dating game, they both felt that checking out an alternative way to meet someone might be worth it.
Daneal spoke about her first impression, getting out the limousine and those nerves that hit you! I can’t even imagine what it must feel like! She continued with genuine honesty about what the first cocktail party felt like when everyone was sussing everyone else out – knowing that they were the competition. But then, once things settled down (the cameras aren’t actually on you 24/7 – this isn’t ‘that other reality show’), the claws aren’t out all the time and being thrown together – without your cellphones (I was shocked – it was something I hadn’t even thought about) – in such close proximity, forces you to form bonds a lot quicker and a lot deeper than you normally would.
All three girls mentioned the strong connections that have been formed between the competitors, and they truly feel that the friendships they’ve created (even in the short space of time they were in the House), are lifelong ones. Lucy even described the experience as ‘one big sleepover’! Milisha described all the women she’d met as ‘amazing’, although at times you do feel your self-confidence slip a bit, looking at all these other beautiful, incredible women, wondering what you’re doing there. She reminded herself – and wants to remind others – that the only person you need to compete against is yourself, and that you just need to aim to be better than you were the day before – wise words!
I did briefly touch on the Tenji/Michelle R. episode and the overall feeling was that these things are bound to happen, living in such close proximity and with everything being much more intense than in a ‘normal’ situation. All three ladies said that for these reasons, it’s impossible not to be your authentic self and to show who you truly are, even if you came into the House attempting to show a different face – the masks were inevitably going to slip pretty quickly.
The self-confidence thing intrigued me though. A show such as The Bachelor can give your self-confidence a huge knock. Daneal was clear about the fact that you obviously need to have a certain amount of self-confidence going into something like this. You know that not everyone will love you and you know that people will form opinions about you. She agreed that it’s tough to put yourself out there on such a grand scale to be scrutinised but it’s a decision you make and one that you need to be comfortable with.
Lucy isn’t on Twitter, but uses other social media platforms. She says she’s not really phased by stuff like that, but has found that the feedback she’s seen has been positive and supportive. We did chat about the group date and she said she’d felt very self-conscious, wishing afterwards that she’d felt a lot more confident and had done things differently in that situation.
Interestingly, none of these three ladies went in with a strategy or a game plan. Are they devastated to be out of the running so early in the show? To be honest – not really.
To quote Milisha – “I’m getting back to my life, which is awesome! I love my home, my family, my friends, my job and my dog!” Not only is she proud of herself, but so are her family and friends. She got to know so much about herself and learned to love herself a lot more too.
About Lee, she says – “He has amazing energy, but he wasn’t ‘the one’.”
For Lucy it was too soon to tell if Lee was her forever man and Daneal took the pragmatic approach, saying that she’d just thoroughly enjoyed the entire experience, learning whatever she could from it and knowing that the bonds that were created with her fellow competitors would last a lifetime.
And so… 18 girls are left. What surprises are in store for them and for our Bachelor, Lee Thompson? You’ll have to watch weekly on Mnet Channel 101, Thursdays at 19:00. Don’t panic if you miss it! It’ll be on Catch Up!
Also, don’t forget that you can play in The BacheLEAGUE too.
